Episode 311 Transcript
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[00:00:00] You are listening to episode 311 of the Peaceful Mind Podcast.
Welcome to the Peaceful Mind Podcast, a place for creating the peace of mind. You need to be the best mom you are created by God to be. If you want to bring more balance, more joy, and more peace to your motherhood, this is the place for you. I'm your host, certified life coach at Catholic Mom Danielle Thienel.
In the name of the father of the Son and of the Holy Spirit. Let's get started. Hello, my beautiful mamas. Welcome back to the podcast, and today I'm gonna do something a little bit more structured than usual. I have put a time constraint on getting this episode completed and finished. And so it might be a little bit more short to the point, [00:01:00] less storytelling, less expanding on things, but that's okay.
In fact, you might even like it better, right? You might send me an email or get in touch with a DM and you might say oh, I liked that straightforward to the point. We'll see. It's because I have these 10 habits I wanna share with you that are gonna help declutter your mind, home and heart and decluttering and organizing is definitely on many of your minds right now.
And I'm not talking about, just your closets and counters here. I'm gonna go a little bit deeper, but I'm just going to give you a list of 10 habits, just a tiny more information about what I think, and then just as you're going along listening, really just see which one in my, poignant delivery of it which one like just calls to you?
Which one is where you have like a body reaction when you hear and [00:02:00] think Ooh, either I don't do that and I might wanna start or this is my challenge part. So now I think I'm gonna focus on that one, but let's just get started. Okay. And I also like to be a little bit of an example to show you when it comes to time management, like I'm looking, how I'm managing my time today is that I have chosen a small window.
When we do that, this is when we are in charge of taking how you know of deciding how long something's going to take. And so here we go, right? The 10 habits to declutter your mind, your home, and your heart, because many of us, I want you to know that clutter isn't just physical, it's emotional, it's mental, it's spiritual.
It can accumulate quietly. So let's just gently name some of that clutter and then I'm gonna offer you [00:03:00] small doable habit that you, that can help you begin to clear it out. So this episode is gonna show you ways that are not. That don't bring on overwhelm, that don't have guilt associated with it, and you don't need to become somebody else right in this process to feel more peace as you are decluttering your mind, home, and heart.
So the first habit is to create a morning margin, okay? And that doesn't mean a full on morning routine. It doesn't mean a 5:00 AM wake up call, just some margin and even 10 minutes of unhurried time in the morning, maybe without your phone, without pressure, it can declutter your mind before the day even begins.
So start by sitting with your coffee or tea and asking, what do I wanna believe about [00:04:00] today? Not what I do what I have to do, but what do I want to believe? There's a huge difference there and this habit, if you ask yourself each day, it slows your brain and helps you lead your day instead of react to it.
So that is a way that we can. Declutter is to create a morning margin, short period of time, unhurried purposeful so that you can sit with the question at what do I want to believe about today? And then answer it.
The second habit is to let go of one thing a day, and in this time, unlike the first one, I'm asking you for a physical .Item like every day. One physical item, let go of it. That's it. It may be a shirt you never wear a mug you don't love. An old stack of papers you just walk [00:05:00] past 12 times, right? You don't need a weekend long purge to start feeling lighter. Just start building the identity of someone who lets go. One small release per day leads to a lighter home and a freer mind. So habit number two, let go of one thing a day.
Habit number three, say yes to slower. Okay. Mental clutter. It often comes from over commitment, and I'm over here raising my hand too. I have to catch myself on this over commitment thing. So before you say yes to the next thing. Whether it's volunteering, hosting, signing up for something, pause.
Pause and ask, what will this yes require of my future self. In the moment, yes, just feels easier, right? But you're not thinking about your future self. Who [00:06:00] wishes your past self said no. So this single question helps you become a better steward of your time and your emotional bandwidth. So say yes to slower, right? This will help you with the clutter of over commitment.
Habit number four, set a worry window. I love this one. I do. I might not word it I just did for this episode as a worry window, but I'm gonna start using it, but I definitely talk about this concept with my clients.
Okay. If your mind is full of spinning thoughts... worry, regret, planning, people pleasing, try giving your brain structure around it. And what I mean is create a worry window if it is worry that you're feeling right. Set a 10 minute maybe timer in the afternoon. You sit down and you decide, this is my time that I'm going to choose to worry.
And it [00:07:00] might, you might journal every worried thought you have, but when that window is over, whatever you've done, five minutes, 10 minutes, whatever you've chosen, then you close the door on it, you close the window, close the notebook. You're done. Like you decide, my worry window's over. I'm not worrying anymore.
And this teaches your brain. We're not ignoring you. Like I hear that you're, but we're not gonna let you run my day either. And this alone has just cleared more mental space for my clients than when really any other productivity hack. . Just making a decision that you have that limited container, that limited time, and that's when you're doing it. And then we're done and we move on.
Habit number five. Practice thought awareness in the transfer moments. Okay, I'm gonna have to explain this one because we have so many transfer moments in our day. [00:08:00] So what I mean by that is like between. Your drop off of the kids and coming home, that's a transfer moment.
Between errands, from one store to the post office, that's a transfer moment between tasks, right? They're often when your brain floods with like self-judgment, and instead, I'm af I'm offering for you to swap this with more more thought awareness. So with the self-judgment that happens when you just leave your brain in those transfer moments, it's probably going, I'm behind.
I should be doing more. I don't even know what I accomplished today, but that's what we wanna change. We wanna choose something else to practice during those moments, and but we're like deliberate about it. They're like, okay, in this transfer moment from going to the grocery store to dropping these off at the post office, I'm going to practice.
And focus my mind [00:09:00] into a more positive, helpful place. Like I'm learning to move slower and trust it. There's time for what matters today. My worth isn't tied to my output. And so this habit, and I'm literally just giving you an idea of when in your day that this could be the time you say, I'm going to practice. It turns those transitions we're making in our lives into a training for peace.
Okay, number six is unfollow at will. Okay? And this is when I'm talking about digital clutter, because digital clutter equals mental clutter. And this is someone who decides I am going to focus on this habit to bring myself more peace.
And that is maybe I'm gonna take a social media break. Or maybe I'm just gonna take a few minutes and unfollow the things that are like, are draining me. Maybe there's this type [00:10:00] of ads and you're gonna exit out, and so maybe you're gonna unsubscribe to some things like so digitally, again, you don't need to announce, like even if you're taking like a social media break or anything, just unfollow anything that drains you or maybe triggers comparison. And this is gonna help declutter your mind. And believe me, your nervous system too will thank you and your piece will return little by little.
Habit number seven, have a home for guilt. This is gonna be probably a new concept for you all, and what I'm talking about is the tie that we have of guilt or maybe like the sentimental part to our physical clutter.
This is what I mean, right? Because many of us hold onto physical clutter because it emotionally ties us to guilt or sentimentality. And the examples are like when you have that book [00:11:00] that you were supposed to read. Or the sweater that your mom gave you or just the item you bought but never used.
I want you to if you take this idea and you build, like maybe you can get a small bin and maybe you label it the emotional declutter or guilt or something. And this is when you would actually take those physical items and put them in here the home for guilt. This is what I mean. And we can just let the things live there temporarily.
So they are decluttered from our space and our mind from seeing them in the reminder. And we can just know that they can live there out of, sight out of mind while you decide what to do with them. And just see, it just gives you permission to acknowledge the emotion. That you have with those items without letting it paralyze you.
Okay? Habit number eight, [00:12:00] identify your emotional backlog. So just like you might have a stack of mail on the counter, you might have an emotional stack building up inside you. And what I mean by this is you have unprocessed resentment, decisions. You delayed for sure. This is in there. Decisions you delayed, conversations, you're avoiding.
So anything that you have avoided, delayed, put off, right? What you're not realizing at that is building a clutter in your heart. And you wanna choose one thing from that list, you wanna be onto yourself, right? What haven't I processed through? What emotion haven't I processed? What decision am I delaying? What conversation am I avoiding? And we wanna look at it. Not fix it, not finish. Just look because awareness that you even have that is the [00:13:00] beginning of uncluttering it all.
Habit number nine, end your day with, it's like a, it's really like journal prompts, but again, if you don't write it down. Writing down would be amazing if you got into that habit, but again, I don't want it to make it like much that your brain just get overwhelmed and doesn't do it at all. But if you can write these three questions down and then, take three minutes at night at the end of the day and ask one, what did I do today that really matters?
Number two, what emotion was hardest for me today? And three, what am I choosing to release tonight? And this habit clears out the mental junk drawer we have that often keeps us restless or wired at night. It just prevents us maybe from that sound sleep. And we definitely wanna [00:14:00] just take the time, but these three questions and you for sure will build the habit and feel so much better. You'll declutter your mind and your heart with both of these.
And the last habit is to return to your body. Okay? When your home is chaotic, your brain is overwhelmed. Your emotions feel heavy. Sometimes the fastest way to declutter is to get back into your body. And why? Because when you do that. It slows down or stops you on that runaway train that your brain is going down any in the first place.
For instance, when we stretch, when we walk, when we take breaths with intention, like even 30 seconds of stillness, right? Your hand over your heart, and it gives your heart the signal that you're Okay we're here. We're safe. Because this is, peace is physical too. And so getting out of our head [00:15:00] that's swirling and taking away our peace, we get into our body, that is definitely right.
An indicator that if we can calm ourselves physically, it can bring us closer to peace as well. Okay, you don't need all 10 habits and let me just run through them right now, just as a reminder. Okay. Habit one, create a morning margin, habit two, let go of one thing a day. I think this is my favorite, and I think I'm signing up for this one today, for sure.
Habit number three, say yes to slower habit number four, set a worry window. Habit number five, practice your thought awareness in the transfer moments. Habit number six to start unfollowing at will. Habit number eight, identify your emotional backlog and [00:16:00] take a look at it. Habit nine, end of the day with that three part journal prompt, or the three question prompt.
And habit number 10, return to your body. You don't need to do all of 10 of these habits, right? You don't need to become someone new to have relief and to start decluttering your life. You just choose one that resonates today and let it lead you to a lighter, clearer place. And just as these habits that I brought to you today, definitely demonstrate, decluttering.
Your life is not just about things. It always begins in your mind. And I wanna remind you today that you are doing better than you think, mama. And you're also allowed to want more ease in your life. So I hope this episode prompted you. Encouraged you, empowered you, and as always, I thank you for being here with me today.[00:17:00]
If everything resonates with you, if you are a longtime listener or you're brand new, if you are somebody who. Has a challenge or an issue that is taking away your peace if you haven't felt joy in your motherhood in a long time. If you've been spinning your wheels, trying all the things, trying to see progress in your goals, but you keep ending up in the back in the same place, if you just feel stuck, you just don't know how, then please come talk to me.
I don't want you to stay there. There's some unnecessary suffering that's going on, and there is a path, there is a method, there are tools, and I feel like I have it in a beautiful simple package, method way to deliver this process that when you are enlightened by it, when you like, learn from it.
I hope you will be saying, where [00:18:00] has this been? All my life. I know that's what I said. And so I would love to be able to talk with you about your own life circumstances and where you are in your motherhood. So if you are interested, please, I invite you to sign up and check out talking with me in person.
And that happens on a Peaceful Mom Strategy Call. And links to be able to connect with me in that way will be in the show notes. Otherwise, you can direct message me on Instagram or Facebook @daniellethienelcoaching. And I just wanna just express my love and gratitude to all of you for being here and for sharing it and letting others know that this resource for more peace of mind in your motherhood is available.
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