The Peaceful Mind Podcast
Episode 85- Believing New Things
FULL TRANSCRIPT (with timecode)
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You are listening to episode 85 of the Peaceful Mind podcast.
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Welcome to the Peaceful Mind podcast, a place for creating the peace of mind, you need to be the best mom you were created by God to be.
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If you want to bring more balance, more joy in more peace to your motherhood,
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this is the place for you. I'm your host, certified life coach at Catholic mom Danielle Thienel. In the name of the father of the son and of the Holy Spirit. Let's get started.
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Oh, boy, all this episode is going to be what you will want to listen to again and again, believing new things, this kind of sums up exactly what it took
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in order to move
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from the life
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of where I was in overwhelmed
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and not feeling fulfilled
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and really just yearning for more and feeling
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like I didn't know how to get out of it to a life where I know that I
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am the creator along with our Heavenly Father on while I'm here on Earth, that
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this is what I need to
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do in order to reach my
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goals and to have what I want in my life and just to create amazing things. It is believing new things. It is imperative. And today I'm going
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to share with you
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how to do that because it is exactly no matter if I've got a mom coming to me that wants help with time management, one that's
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about to embark on
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getting back out
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into the workforce or wants to start her own
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little side gig while
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she's caring for her kids or struggling with their marriage or organizing their home,
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or just building confidence or just wanting someone to
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be there to just help them
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along to
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get to their goals.
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It's always about them needing to believe new things. And this is why because
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everything starts in your brain. The thoughts you are thinking in your brain, this is what turns into your beliefs.
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When you think a thought
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over and over again,
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this is what is a belief.
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So I'm sure you have lots of beliefs right now that are totally serving you, especially if you are a woman of
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faith, as I am.
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We have certain beliefs right about our faith.
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They feel absolutely
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true to us
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and we have chosen to think about them in a way that when we think about it over and over again, that it feels true to us and it
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becomes our truth. But what
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I want to offer you today
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is that there are things that
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you might have just learn to believe because someone else told you. And then it might be something
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that served you at a different part of your life in your motherhood.
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But that now it's not serving you, it's not helping you. And so you have to
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teach yourself
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how to believe new things. OK, so this is what I'm going to outline kind of what it is
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the process
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to believe new things and then
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we'll dive deeper into each one. So here's the process. Like I started out saying, number one, everything starts in your brain. Just know that everything starts when we've
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had a thought about it. Anything that's been
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created in the world.
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It began with someone having a thought
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to create it. Kate, number two, what you believe? Is based on your past. So what you're currently
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believing now
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is based on your past. But number three tells
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us that what you want,
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what you want to create that you
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don't currently have now can only be based on what you are thinking about now
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about your future. Number four, we're going to talk about how
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do you believe something that you don't yet believe because
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there is a process, a simple, clear process. Number five, when your beliefs
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change, you create change. It's just inevitable
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as you grow and change your beliefs, the results you see in your life
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will be different. And then number six, we're going to commit.
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We're going to commit to certain thoughts in our brain and practice them and apply them over and over again and redirect our brain that way.
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And then
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that is how through this commitment, this is how you
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start to believe new things. All right. So just think
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right now before we start, I want you to kind of have a focus in your mind. What is something you currently believe about yourself that
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you want to believe something different in? You want some change. Or I'll give you an example about myself. I'll think back to
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when I first came to
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coaching,
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where I found it through a
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friend who was a life coach, and then she told me about the Life Coach School podcast. And then as I dove deep into that, I just started my my. My mind started to think like, I think that's what I want to do. I think that's who I want to be. I want to be someone who learns these things and then helps other people. But I would have these thoughts like, can I do that? Am I capable of doing that? You know, is there something that they have that I don't
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have with that work for my
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life? What would that look like?
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I'm not sure. You know, I've never done that before,
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and I needed to just decide on something that I wanted to believe differently about myself. And that moment, it's fine to recognize what your current thinking is. But I had to decide what is that new belief I want to have? And so it could be as simple
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when I
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reflect back is saying no. It's possible. That I will be an amazing coach and help many people in the world. It's possible that I could make this be my
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new career path.
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I want to believe that that job
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and that career and that
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vocation would
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be the perfect
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one to transition to as my kids are getting older
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and I have a little bit
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more time. Do you see like, these are new things I wanted to believe, but at the time, I didn't believe it. I didn't know that that was possible for me. So if that is something that I wanted to got, this is
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kind of like the process to get there.
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But before we dive in, I want you to think about something in particular. So when I tell you these steps, you can apply it to it. What is something that you want to believe about yourself or something about your life? You want to believe that you can
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work towards with what I have to offer you today? OK, let's start with number one. OK, everything starts in your brain,
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so every single thing that has ever been created by humans has been created with a thought
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in someone's brain first.
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Yeah, there's no exceptions to this. And so
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if you don't allow yourself to focus on what you're
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thinking, then you can't really create anything. It's like we can't be unconscious
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about our thoughts anymore.
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And this is what coaching has done for me. It has brought a consciousness to my thinking. I've become a watcher of my thoughts.
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And so the very first step
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to believing new things must be this
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new awareness of what's going on in your brain.
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And if you've listened to the podcast, you know, long enough, you will know that I mentioned things like thought downloads, getting all of your thinking down on paper, just kind of doing like a brain dump of what's going on in there until it's empty, right? Keep asking your brain, What else am I thinking? What else am I thinking? And then when it's
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on paper, you can then become the watcher.
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You can see that tangible
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item on your paper, whereas before it was swirling in your head,
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a lot of people like to do this with journaling. That's also an option. And then,
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of course, talking with
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a coach who can then see your thoughts and reflect them back to you and show you what you were thinking and you were, you might not have. Even while most likely you weren't realizing that it was just a thought, you just feel like you're kind of telling the news, telling me exactly what is true. But it is thoughts. It is your thinking. And we often don't think of creation, of
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creating our results
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in our life as something
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that happens in our brain. But it is where all true creation starts.
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Like we create thoughts and then we create things. You know, if you decide I need a new TV, that's a thought. And then it propels
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you
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into action, too. Then if you have the TV, if you've bought it and you've delivered, have
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it delivered to your house and it's
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set up, you now have it. But it began with that thought. I need a new TV and a thought is literally just a sentence and we create a lot of them in our daily life. The lot of them come in. But that consciousness, if you really
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want to use your true power to believe new things, there has to
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be this new kind of way of
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watching your thoughts and really finding out what's in your brain instead
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of just letting the
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normal
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thoughts that you've been thinking
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over and over again kind of swirl in there
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and just they're so natural and subconscious. And so you will keep creating the same things, and maybe a lot of the
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things are serving you and works for your life.
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So I'm talking about when you recognize a change you want to make in your life. This is where you have to bring consciousness to what you're thinking about that area and then decide, do I want to become the person who believes something differently about it? I wanted to believe differently that I absolutely could become a coach, have a coaching business, have be the deciding, you know, decision maker for this business and also integrate it into my life in a way that has me showing up as the mom that I want to.
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And then
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I'm also serving and
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helping other people, you know, and I hadn't really any done. I hadn't done any of that online or
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anything before, so there was a lot to learn.
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But I stayed focused on what it was that I wanted to create, and I had to kind of build evidence and think that it was possible for myself. And it took a lot of coaching
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for a coach to show me all those beliefs that were going. Getting in
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my way that I didn't really realize that, you know, for
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instance, I really was holding on my thoughts that I was a
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perfectionist, that things needed to be perfect before I did them
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or I wasn't really
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good at technology. So uncovering
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that I had these thought errors in
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my mind, I then once I saw them and they were revealed to me, I decided I didn't want to believe that anymore. I wanted to believe new things. And then when you take this thought and put it into the self coaching model, this is a tool that I teach all of my clients and I've talked
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about here on the
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podcast. I then realized that that thought of me not being, you know, capable
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or not being able to learn
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technology, I could then put that into the model to see, like, do I want to keep thinking that?
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Or first seeing
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how I feel when I think it? And I knew that that feeling of kind of doubt was not having me act and then ultimately creating what I wanted because what happens is that the
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sentences in our brains, the
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thoughts. We need to believe them. When they and we want to believe the ones that create a feeling that will actually help drive us into action,
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that gets us closer to the result that we want and this is how we make our dreams come true. That is the process. OK, now we're going to move on to number two,
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what you believe
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right now. It's based on your past. You know, your brain is filled with
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sentences
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and all of them were taught to you like directly or indirectly throughout your life, from when you were younger to where you are right now. And some of them are so ingrained
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that you just don't notice them anymore.
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They you think they're truth. They feel in your body as if their truth. But they really are just
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thoughts and beliefs that just go unquestioned. And again, when we start to question him a lot of the time,
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there are some that have served us
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and we do like and feel good when we think them and we want to hold on to them because we want to take that on with us in our life. I'm talking about the ones that are revealed to you that when you question them, you can then see, Yeah, I don't want to be having these thoughts about myself in my life anymore. So again, the first step we have to become aware, we must become
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aware of what you're thinking.
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You'll look into the world and you're think that you'll be observing the facts.
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But really, you were just constantly making judgments about the world based on what you've learned and believed in your past.
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So again, we have to evaluate these thoughts. So if you have thoughts like I'm just this kind of person or that kind of person, it's kind of like how I told you, I used to
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believe I'm just a perfectionist.
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Or maybe you think I can't do that?
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That's for other people. That's not
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for me. How about I'm not good at this, right? If I really decided to keep believing I'm not good at figuring out technology
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and computer stuff, then I would not be where I am today, where I've always had a hard time with this. That's right.
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Maybe you have. And if that's just a thought, it's not a fact. And if you want to keep believing it, guess what?
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You're always still going to have a hard time with it.
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They kind of like these thoughts in a lot of them that
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you have from your past, they really just go right under the radar for you.
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There's not an awareness. It just seems easy. It's natural to think them. You don't pay close attention. And in coaching. Boy, do we pay close attention to your thoughts because we know that the reason that we have them might feel justified,
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but they're not right now
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getting you any closer to what you want. We want to pay attention to our feelings, too. This is so important. And again, if you've been listening the podcast, you know it's our
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thoughts that create our
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feelings. So knowing if you're in these positive feelings or negative feelings, that's super really good information and indicators
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of where your thoughts are. So how you're feeling?
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Definitely can be easier for some of you to be like, Wait a minute, if I'm not feeling good, maybe I'm not having using, you know, my mental capabilities to choose a thought that was
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going to serve me here. And you'll think that your feeling is coming from, you know, your life in the world and
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outside of you, the circumstances like you'll think your feelings
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are coming from your kids or from the state of your house or
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what the scale says,
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but you're not. Your feelings are coming from your thoughts. And yeah, your feelings are just they're always
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coming from your thinking. So if we want to believe new things,
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getting awareness about our thoughts and then in addition, for sure, more awareness of how you're feeling
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is going to be key. So pay attention to your thoughts if they're like, I don't like so-and-so, I don't want x y z.
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That doesn't work or that won't work for me. I've never done it before, or it's their fault
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or she did this to me. Notice that those thoughts, they they they zap your empowerment and they block any new beliefs because new beliefs require self-empowerment.
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This is what makes us believe the
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current thoughts that we are believing right now. We practice them. We practice them a lot. And then we
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repeat thinking them over and over again. So believing is deciding and accepting that something is true, but it doesn't really make it true, it just makes each of us believe that it's true. And I want you to understand the difference, because if you want to stop believing something,
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you first have to recognize
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that you have accepted
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your current belief as true, and then from there
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you can just decide to change your mind about it. You just get to.
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You have full control over where you spend your minds focus. And you've learned to believe everything about yourself up
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into now because you've been practiced thinking it and then you've been repeating this, thinking you've literally studied it to believe that it's true. So when we're trying to believe new things, we just have to do the same thing with new thoughts, thoughts that we
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choose on purpose, that we want to believe about ourselves in our life.
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And then we have to practice thinking them and then repeat that over and over. It's time for you to be much
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more deliberate
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with this. You have to create a new belief. But first, you have to choose what that new belief
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about yourself is
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that you want. So pick something, pick some things. What do you want to create in your life? And what new beliefs will it take for you to practice in order to get there? One thing I was so fascinated to learn was I get to pick anything I want just because I want it. There's no half truths. There's no no need to
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choose or shoulds. There are no rules about what
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you can believe. There's no tests.
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There's no approval
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needed. Definitely not outside approval. You can just decide to believe
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that you are amazing, that you are a great mom, that you're beautiful,
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that you have a green
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thumb, that you're very organized,
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that you really manage your time well, that you've got it all under control. You get to just believe what you want to believe and then go at
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the work of proving this true for yourself.
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Building the evidence in your life of how this is true. No one can tell you not to.
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You can decide to believe that you're smart and capable
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and fun and successful, no matter what anyone says. Isn't that just such fantastic news? Yeah. So ah no. Our brain can't believe two opposing things at the same time without it just feeling discomfort. So we want to decide what we want to believe, and that's where we put our focus. We have to go into
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our futures
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and imagine. I always ask my clients, OK, so this goal, I want you to go ahead and imagine it's done. Imagine you have it.
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Imagine you are that person.
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What does it look like? What are you doing? What are you thinking? How are you feeling? What does it look like when you wake up in the morning? What does it look like when you go to bed at night?
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How are you around your family? How are you showing up at work?
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Just tap, tap into that imagination. Start to visualize what that will look like this. Our brain, when we go to make that
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picture, our brain will go to work, helping
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you to make
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that picture a reality.
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Now, when I just mentioned about believing those two opposing things, like most of us to stay within the realm of those old beliefs, we just spend a lot of time there because we already believe them and it's very comfortable. Our past is showing us evidence of what we think is
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possible for ourselves,
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but a belief is just a thought. You keep on thinking even though the past is over. So you get to just choose a new belief and that will create a different future.
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You're so familiar with current
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beliefs that you just accept them. So when you want to believe something new, you have to decide to learn it. With this practice, you literally have to practice thinking it.
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Accepting it as true,
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deciding it's true for you. And eventually you will believe it. Some of you might be hearing this and think, isn't that kind of like brainwashing yourself? And my answer is, yeah, kind of. The thing is, is that we do have to trick our brain. It tricks us sometimes. Well, a lot of the times
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it tries to tell us that it's not possible for us or that we don't deserve it, or
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that we should just keep things as is in our lives. So, yeah, I want you if that helps to think about it a little bit about like brainwashing, because if you do that, if you decide what you want to believe on purpose and you visualize it and you just create the thought that aligns with that vision and just decide to
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accept it as true and then practice
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thinking it and then repeat practice thinking it over and over again, you will eventually come to believing it. Included in this process is something that we
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call bridge or ladder
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thoughts. It means that we don't always have to jump to practicing a thought that we don't like is just
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too far out of the
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realm of what we think is possible for our lives. So I'm going to give you an example. So when it comes to the technology piece that I mentioned earlier,
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I
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really did believe like, I'm not good at technology. I it's hard. It's not something that I enjoy and that it's too complicated. And those were thoughts from my past, right? Just kind of like dealing with computers and things like that before.
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That is what felt true to me
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when I decided that I was going into an online business platform. I then knew well,
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in order to
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reach the success that I wanted, I would have to become someone who believed that they could handle some tech issues. But I didn't go from I. I'm not someone who can do it to, Oh, I totally got this or yeah, technology is easy for me. Like, I didn't go to believing that new thought I did a bridge. I kind of just went up
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one more rung
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of a ladder.
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And what really
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stuck was, if I don't quit, I'm willing
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to figure it out.
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If I don't quit, I'll get there. And then also like, I'm willing to
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figure it out or things like I'm a person who learns how to problem solve.
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Did you see how it just it feels a little bit better to me. Not that like.
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I'll never be able to figure it out, but
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to I'm capable of figuring things out. It was just like moving me up one rung of a ladder in my beliefs, and we can move that way just little increments of belief. But I still had to keep my mind focused on that one that I eventually wanted to get to. So once you've decided on what it is that you want to believe now and then
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you start practicing directing your mind towards that thought
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more often than not, you want to scan for evidence, you want to take that thought and look
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in your life, in your world and
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focus and say to
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yourself, Where is that true? Where is that true for me
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that I already am that person or thinking, who believes this? So back again to when I was building my business and the technology piece, even if I did one small thing like one little setup or one email sent one website kind of like creation part, I would just say to myself, Wow, there I go, becoming someone who's
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learning
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this technology piece. And sometimes it would be that I would go onto YouTube, right? And I would look up something and at the end, and then I would give it a try, and I'd be like, Hey, I'm figuring this out. I'm actually on my way to being someone who figures out technology. So we have to scan and recognize
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where our beliefs are becoming more true in our lives. It will start to
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manifest, it
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will start to show
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up.
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You will start
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to see evidence, you'll be building this kind of file of all of the reasons
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why. You are able to do these things, why you are that person already.
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Again, our brain loves to be right. So if you direct it in a way that has the question of where is it true that I am already
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whatever it is that
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you are wanting to believe it's going to show you? And I just want to tell you this caveat about believing new things. The brain doesn't like change, right? We've talked about the motivational
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triad before where your part of the part of your brain, where its job is to
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seek, to avoid pain,
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to to find
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pleasure and to just exert limited energy. So when you decide to make this change in yourself to believe something new about
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yourself, there is
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going to
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be brain
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resistance. It goes against what it knows and what's comfortable, it wants comfort. And as you think differently,
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your brain is going
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to be like, Wait a minute, wait a minute. No, this isn't what I'm used to thinking. This isn't comfortable and it's going to just feel kind of
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anxiousness in your in your body.
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It it'll show up with your feelings. But I want you to know that this is going to be an indicator that you are doing it right because you can just say to yourself, Oh, you know, it's always easy to make the plans for something and then decide on something. But the actual work of doing it
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is where you know, is where the work is. So if you are feeling that discomfort,
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like I don't think this is working and this doesn't feel really good and it doesn't feel
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comfortable yet or right, I want
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you to not be like, Oh, OK, what Danielle said isn't actually, you know, working for me. No, I want you to be like, Oh, this is what she said would happen. I would feel really uncomfortable about it. And this is meaning that it's working.
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So let me just wrap up by saying, what do you currently believe about yourself,
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about your life, about
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others, about what's possible for your life? Get really familiar with what they are.
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And then look at them. Choose deliberately. Do you want to keep believing those?
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Are they serving your life?
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And if not, this is what this episode was all about. You get to believe new things. And I laid out the process of what it takes
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for you
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to become someone who believes new things. And it really is as simple as creating a new thought and then believing it. Because if you commit to believing it and you feel it and then you act on it, you will create the results of it. And that is building more evidence
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of how your thoughts create your results. So whatever you create,
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it's because of what you chose to think. And then I told you in this episode that we get to think and believe whatever we want. So choose wisely.
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Choose on purpose. Choose deliberately. Just don't hope for it. You don't just try for it. You don't just wish for it.
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Commit to it and then go to work to get it. And just know that discomfort. It's a given. It's going to it's going to come up. If that's what it takes,
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that's what's part of the process.
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So just go for it anyway. Dive in and then just allow it
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to feel awkward at times.
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And maybe even think that it's impossible sometimes, but keep
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redirecting your brain
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back to what it is that you want.
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Keep future focused. Know that just because you were one way in your past doesn't
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mean that has anything to do with your future. And hold on to these beliefs.
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Direct your mind to it. Think over and over again as if it's already
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done and created and then repeat, repeat, repeat. I get so passionate about helping others learn how to believe new things because it takes new thoughts
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to create new results. And if you're someone
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who right now wants help with this because it is easier, it is
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simpler when you have
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somebody outside of you showing you
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what your current beliefs are
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and helping you just kind of focus on what it is that you truly want to create instead.
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Then the process is
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a lot more fun and
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smoother, and you can arrive there more quickly. Not that there's a rush
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because I've laid out the steps that it takes, but if you do want help with this, then please jump on a free call with me. We can even take
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one of your current beliefs
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and something new that you want to believe, and
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we'll walk through the process together. All right, everyone go out there and believe
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new things and go create some epic things in your life. I'll talk to you next week. Thank you for tuning in to today's episode of the Peaceful Mind podcast. Are you ready to take everything I teach you here and
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put it to work for your own life to really learn how
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to have peace of mind, no matter what is happening around you? If so, I'd love to have you as a client,
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as your coach. This is where you'll get personal and focus time
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on your own mind using life coaching tools, concepts and proven life transforming wisdom all through a faith filled lens.
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To learn more about how we can work together.
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Come on over to DanielleThienel.com. There you'll see how to sign up
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